Givers & Takers
I always thought people are divided to “givers & takers” .
You know , givers are people who contribute & give to someone , givers see the bigger picture , and takers are self centered people , ready to take advantage of you , their world revolves around them , its all about them , and only about them .
One of the things i wanna improve myself on is , not to judge people . I try not to , but i always do . Unconsciously….when people screw up , i judge them , when people around me are nice to me , i judge them too .
Some people say , like it or not , everybody judge . It is call , having an opinion . We are all humans , right ?
Anyway , what i learned this week is .
There is no such thing as , labeling someone a “giver” , or a “taker” . Why ? Because we are both of them . Givers and Takers .
Some of us take from our close ones , but give to everybody around .
Some of us take from everybody , but give to our close one .
Look around you . It happens .
My friend , who is known as a “taker” among us . He is very stingy , always taking advantage of those who drives , everytime say he pay us back and hopes we forget about it etc …he does it to save money .
Why save money ? To pay his dad’s medical bills . In his dad’s eyes , he is a great son who puts his family first .
Another friend who is someone who hangs alot in Music Master . He is very knowledgeable . Constantly “gives” and inspires us . He always make people around him feel good . A pure extrovert . But he treats his wife like shit . Everytime she calls , he change his tone , screams at her on the phone ..We can feel that something not right is going on…
What can we learn from here ?
Since we are all givers & takers . Learn how to identify people who wants to give , receive it with a thankful heart and appreciate them . Give to people who appreciate you so that they receive the best blessings from you .
What you don’t want is , to take from a taker and to give to someone who doesn’t appreciate it .
Ever heard of this quote ? Why did superman die ? He tries to save a world that doesn’t want to be save .
Random Off Topic :
Sometimes , it sucks to be a thinker like me .
You know as we grow older , things that were once black and white , starts to turn grey .
The problem is , As we grow older , this grey areas become wider and wider .
People are confused . What is right and what is wrong ? We constantly use :
We are in a different culture .
There’s always 2 sides to a story .
It is your believe system and i respect it .
…to tell ourselves that it is okay .
Is learning to be neutral part of growing up ?
I always thought i want to be a “giver” . Not a taker . Now i realized that i am both a giver and a taker . Everybody is .
Givers & Takers ? A grey area for me now . What used to be something Right and WRONG .
As a business owner , i always wanna hire people who GIVES and contributes to the company .
Ahhhhh , after this week ..i am taking this “Givers & Takers” Label off the paper …
By the way , I will be in Singapore this Saturday and China on next Monday . Looks like i am going to have an adventurous July 2010 
July 8th, 2010 at 5:43 pm
must learn to give n take lo. willing to give w/o expecting anything in return, and learn to b grateful when taking something from other people. too much of either one IS okay, but sooner or later will be tiring.
July 8th, 2010 at 11:57 pm
What goes around comes around I guess
July 9th, 2010 at 7:33 am
For a moment I thought you’ll be giving out some pedals and cases
July 11th, 2010 at 3:50 am
dude i was just eating at the restaurant next door to music master..maybe it was dark and i didn’t pay attention much…is the dustbin still around?
July 11th, 2010 at 8:15 pm
ya man, the dustbin still there?
January 20th, 2011 at 11:10 am
I disagree. It’s not that people are both givers and takers. It’s that takers often disguise themselves as givers, and givers even disguise themselves as takers.
Your friend who is saving money for his dad is a huge giver. He is willing to jeopardize his relationship with his friends and gain a reputation as stingy so that he can give money to his dad. Givers will often seem like takers for this reason. They will risk their reputation to help someone, and they are the kind of people to give false confessions in order to protect someone who did something wrong.
Your friend who treats his wife badly sounds like a classic taker. He is exactly as nice as he has to be and no more. He knows he can get away with treating his wife like shit, so he does. On the other hand, sharing his knowledge with the community gives him prestige and status, so he gets something out of it. He doesn’t share his knowledge because he’s nice. He shares it because he benefits. He would treat all of you just as badly as he treats his wife if he thought he could get away with it.